A Few Thoughts and FAQs.


We’re officially in Denver.

We’re officially doing this thing.

We’re officially broke.

Which means we’re officially on a strict diet of Ramen Noodles, Mac & Cheese, and cereal.  Seriously.  We really did just get back from the grocery store where we really did buy Ramen Noodles.  It just seemed like the right thing to do after we had to drop another huge chunk of change on medications earlier today.

It’s only been 36 hours and we’re already missing Arle like CRAZY.  Poor thing had to be taken to the doctor just hours after we left town because she was complaining about her ear.  Sure enough, she had an ear infection.  Luckily, she’s in good hands.  And she’s a homebody, so it’s good that she’s been able to stay right there in her own bed while we’re off living in a hotel.  It was a hard decision to be away from her for so long, but hopefully it will be worth it in the end.

I get question after question after question about this whole insane process called IVF.  I thought I would try to think of some of the FAQs we get, just to fill you in a bit.

Why did you come to Denver when there are doctors in Kansas City?   Two years ago, I had 4 or 5 different people (none of whom knew each other) tell me about a Dr. Schoolcraft in Denver.  Each of these conversations happened within a two week period.  It seemed like we were suddenly being pointed in this direction.  We prayed about it and finally decided to look into it.  He is regarded as the best of the best when it comes to treating infertility.  We knew we would only be able to afford IVF once, so we decided we wanted our one shot to be the best shot and made an appointment. 

Do you feel like you’re taking control away from God?  No, we don’t.  We wrestled with this question ourselves for a loooooong time.  After much prayer about whether or not we were taking control from God, we finally felt the Lord was reminding us that He and He alone was in control.  Always.  Even when doctors are involved.  He reminded us that he uses doctors all the time to heal people.  A doctor trying to help someone create life is no different from a doctor trying to help someone prevent death.  In the end, we trust that the Lord is in control no matter what.  He is the creator of life, not our doctor. 
Are you excited????  Sometimes.  It all depends on what part of the process I think about.  If I think about the fact that all of this could end with babies then, yes, I’m SUPER excited.  If I think about the fact that it might not work, I get a sick feeling in my stomach.  If I think about all the shots I’m taking, daily blood-draws, and the possible side-effects that come with it all, I get nervous.  If I think about being away from my baby girl for 1-2 weeks, I cry.  So, yes excitement is in there, but it’s jumbled in with every other emotion you can imagine. 

Are you going to be the next Octomom? NO, I’M NOT.  I’m 99.9% sure the Octomom did intra-uterine insemination, NOT in-vitro fertilization.  And my doctor is ultra-conservative.  He doesn’t want to put my body in danger.  We will only implant two embryos.  If there are any extras, they will be frozen and we’ll implant them later.

Any other questions you want me to answer?  Ask me in the comments below and I’ll answer later. 

Ta ta for now. 


19 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    Nicole said,

    What kind of Ramen Noodle did you go with? I personally like the shrimp..it seems a little more classier than the beef or pork. :)

  2. 2

    Rhonda Phillips said,

    Love you Heather!! I am praying and stnd in faith with you that God is in control!

  3. 3

    Diane said,

    I couldn’t sleep so I’m glad you put a post up! Been thinking about you guys all day and I’m glad to hear that you made it safe and sound! Sorry to hear about Arle. We’re still doing the egg hunt on Saturday morning if she’d be up to it. Keep us posted!

  4. 4

    idania said,

    Hi Heather, I know its been a long since we really caught up about anything, but I jus read your info and know that I may not know everything you’ve gone through the last few yrs. we haven’t seen or spoke, but know that I’m praying & thinking about you, too! Believing everything will turn out great! <3 ya!

  5. 5

    bethany said,

    Sending lots and lots of prayers your way!!
    And yes – I do have a questions. Did you bring your shorts with you? You know the ones I’m talking about=)

  6. 6

    Becky said,

    Heather! I will definitely be praying for you all during this time, I have heard that IVF can make you very emotional, so I will definitely pray that you will have peace. Love you!

  7. 7

    Kristin said,

    Great to hear from you! Praying!!

  8. 8

    i ditto bethany. i hope you’re wearing the shorts every day. kind of a good luck measure.

    my question is…how are you so awesome?

  9. 9

    Jenny said,

    My question is how did you get so many marvelous friends who make me laugh even though I don’t know them or even have a clue what they are talking about?! BTW I’m including myself in you list of marvelous friends. ;) Hugs and prayers!

    P.S. Tell Trav Josh is praying for him specifically.

  10. 10

    jami said,

    i was just about to text you. but you have answered my questions.
    except, are ya’ll bored. what do you do all day? is it like a weird vacation that includes shots and crazy emotions? i don’t know…that’s why i’m asking.

  11. 11

    Your Mother said,

    LOVE Y’ALL, LOVE Y’ALL, LOVE Y’ALL! You have SO MANY things to be excited about. Aren’t you excited that you get to take shots instead of liquid medicine while laying on the dining room table with your Dad laying on top of you while your Mother is prying your mouth open and blowing in your face so you will hopefully gulp in the tasty, pretty purple juice?

  12. 12

    momdiggity said,

    Mother – you are SO right. I would absolutely rather take three shots a day than even just one disgusting spoonful of liquid medicine. Thinking about it gives me the weebie jeebies.

    Bethany and Kristin – I burned the shorts after that day.

    Kristin- I take “awesome” vitamins each morning and I swear they work. You can buy them at Whole Foods. I kid. I’m actually a huge dork that hit a parked car two weeks ago while driving down the street, and I put dish soap in our hotel dishwasher instead of dishwasher soap and we ended up with suds EVERYWHERE. Awesome is something I’m most definitely not.

    Jami – yes, this is most definitely like a weirdo vacay. Trav’s on his laptop working most of the day so I have mucho free time on my hands but no $$ to do anything. Reading lots, finally catching up on all the blogs in my google reader, and picking my toes. Kidding. Maybe.

    Nicole – that’s brilliant! Why didn’t I think of making ramen more fancy by buying the shrimp flavor??!! Next time.

    Jenny – I buy my awesomely funny friends in the “awesomely funny friends” aisle at Whole Foods. You can return them if they end up being not quite as awesome or funny as you had hoped. Trav says thanks to Josh for the prayers:)


    Sent from my iPhone

  13. 13

    maeghan said,

    1st: adding veggies to the ramen is good!
    2nd: praying for you
    3rd: Hugs!

  14. 14

    jami said,

    well i think you should do a day in the life while you’re there. pics of shots and everything. wait, do they go in your butt? you could just do a black censor box over that part. inquiring minds want to know…

  15. 15

    Grammy said,

    We are all so super excited that things are moving forward. And, Arle is doing great! We are having such a good time together. Her ear is feeling better – she actually LOVES her pink liquid medicine ;) Thank you for trusting me with your most precious little girl. I love her to pieces :) Lots of prayers and love and hugs to you both :)

  16. 16

    jonsie said,

    you are precious and such a blessing…

  17. 17

    Brittian said,

    My sister-in-law Dodie (I’m guessing you only know one) told me to check out your stuff after noticing the PW cookbook in my kitchen…I now stop by your site more regularly than PW’s! Just wanted to say thanks for your posts. I really appreciated this one’s section about God being in control. Good stuff. Praying that your joy may be full!

  18. 18

    Suz said,

    Oh, thank the Lord the days of Heather taking liquid medicine are over, Nan!!!! I bear witness to the fact that was traumatic for all parties involved!

    Praying for you guys. Praying this is a sweet time of renewal as well as baby-makin’ time. :) Love ya!!

  19. 19

    bethany said,

    You burned the shorts?!! So, so, so sad to hear this. I was looking forward to ventures in the village when you return… you in your sweet “l” shorts. me in my no makeup granola-icious-ness. (just made up that word)

    TOTALLY agree with Jami – do an IVF day in the life. With a special Cherry Cricket feature. Crap I’m hungry just thinking about it.

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