Just Putting It Out There

Yesterday some girl named Betty left a comment on my post that stated the following:

“A bit of a snooze to read, sorry.”

Perhaps it was a boring post but, geez Betty, didn’t your momma ever teach you that if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all???

Her comment actually made me laugh.

And then it  made me think.

It made me think about the fact that I’ve been avoiding writing lately because I have a lot on my mind and I couldn’t decide whether or not I wanted to write about those things.

So, thanks to Betty, I’ll just go ahead and lay it all out there.

After trying to get pregnant for SIXTY-EIGHT MONTHS (that’s right, 68), Trav and I have decided it’s time to attempt IVF.

IV what?

IVF.  In-vitro fertilization.

Fun times.

I’ve gone back and forth a quadrillion times on whether or not I wanted to actually blog about this.

It’s something lots of people want to be hush/hush about.  Understandably so.  I mean, it’s an extremely emotional and grueling process.  I’ve had friends go through it and have a pretty good idea of how difficult it can be.

I decided to go ahead and just put it out there on the ol’ interwebs so that all of you who have prayed for our family through the years will continue praying for us.

The more, the merrier when it comes to prayers, right?

Also, if I do get pregnant I want people to know the real story.  I don’t want people going up to their infertile friends saying, “Well, I know this couple that tried for 68 months to get pregnant and, poof!, it finally happened.”  I realize these peeps have good intentions and all, but it’s not always as encouraging as you might think.  To me it’s every bit as bad as the people who would say to us while we were in the process of adopting Arle, “You just wait!  Right after you adopt, you’ll get pregnant!”   {Please, for the sake of all that is good and holy, DON’T say this to people who are adopting}

What I want people to know is that God is sovereign.  I know that He and He alone is the creator of life.  I also know that He sometimes uses doctors to help people get pregnant.  I know that no matter how fabulous our doctor is, we won’t get pregnant if it’s not the Lord’s will.  I know that if we do get pregnant all praise and honor and glory will be given to Him, not our doctor.

I could go on and on about what has gone into this decision and how we truly feel this is the direction the Lord is leading us.

But what I would rather go on and on about is how much we would covet your prayers during this time.  As I said, it’s not a pleasant process.  I’m going to be poked and prodded and forced to reveal my front hiney a lot.  Not my idea of fun.  {Have I ever mentioned that we dubbed girly parts as the “front hiney” in our household?  I had to come up with something to avoid saying the V-word}

And pray for Trav, too.  The poor soul is going to be forced to deal with the hormonal/emotional basket-case I’m sure to become, not to mention the fact that they’ll probably draw blood from him a time or two and OH MY GOODNESS can I just say that he doesn’t handle that very well…

So, for anyone wishing I wasn’t sharing all of this mumbo-jumbo, just remember to blame Betty.  It’s all her fault that I dumped this on you guys.



21 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    bethany said,

    Take that Betty!
    Way to put it out there and share your story – you guys have an amazing story to share and it will only get better=) We are praying for you guys and excited to see what God has in store for you!

    PS – Love the word front hiney…so much better than the V word!

  2. 2

    Becky E said,

    Best of Luck Heather! You will all by in my prayers! :)

  3. 3

    Becca Annlee Boyd said,

    Girl you know you got our prayers coming your way from Lakeside AZ!!!! We love you Cuz!!!!!! And your right Betty should jsut hush up!!!!! Ur stuff is great to read!!!

  4. 4

    Carolyn said,

    I’m glad you’re sharing this part of your life. We’ll be praying for you. Welcome back! ;)

  5. 5

    Nancy said,

    Heather I will for sure be praying for you and Travis. I’m sorry I am probably one of those who said you might get pregnant after getting Arle….sorry. I think it is wonderful that you are sharing with us….and for sure God has the plan. I am sure Miss Arle is ready for a little brother or sister!!!

  6. 6

    Rhonda said,

    Heather I love you and I will be praying for you! You and your little family are so very special!! People really shouldn’t say anything if they don’t have anything nice to say! That’s what my mommy said!! But I have come to realize ( in my wise old age) that people sometimes actually think they are making you feel better or they just don’t know what to say!! Your faith amazes me! I know God will continue to bless you, Travis and Arle!!

  7. 7

    oh i just can’t wait to see God’s plan first hand with you, my friends!

  8. 8

    Eren said,

    Heather, I always enjoy reading your blog, and I appreciate you sharing something so personal. I will be praying for you and your family as you go through this, and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for y’all!

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    Audrey Baker said,

    heather, i wouldn’t have read your blog if it weren’t for the gloriousness of facebook. (all that to say that we need to get jami to get a facebook!)

    anywho, i love that you’re putting it all out there! wear your frigin’ heart on your sleeve! you’re so brave for telling your story. i believe that this is ministering and will continue to minister to people. i am praying for you in detail friend and i love you very much. LET’S DO THIS!


  10. 10

    Rachel Jorgensen said,

    I really love you and I really do NOT love this Betty! We will be praying, praying, praying for you guys! You’re amazing to let us all share in your journey :)

  11. 11

    Kristen said,

    thanks for sharing your heart friend… it’s such an encouragement. we are praying for you guys!!!!

  12. 12

    Stacee said,

    This is an awesome post Heather. I admire you for sharing and it does open the door for more prayers to come your way. Good luck with everything. I adore you and wish you and your family all the best.

  13. 13

    laura said,

    what if betty, is betty white? this blog will swell with followers. ha!!

    heather, thanks for sharing what is so personal. prayers and more prayers are coming your way!!! you’re an encouragement to me to share, because if people don’t, we never know what each other is going through.

  14. 14

    Traci said,

    Love you guys and are always thinking of you!

  15. 15

    jami nato said,

    you are brave. it is hard to share your deepest feelings, hurts, and joys with anyone and everyone. you never know who is reading this thinkin, “me too!”.

    i love you and can’t wait to see how God is glorified during this time. keep sharing.

    p.s. i’m betty. that is my internet name. LOL. just kidding.

  16. 16

    Your Mother said,


  17. 17

    annalee said,

    i know we’ve only been around each other a few hours but i love your heart so much. and i love watching your mothering in action. i am praying for your awesome family and God’s plans for you!!!

  18. 18

    Maeghan said,

    My mama raised me right so I am not even going to go there with what I would really like to say about that person. On the other hand I love you, Trav and Arle! You are amazing and you can bet Green Acres is praying for you!

  19. 19

    Kim said,

    Precious Father,
    We cry out to You tonight for these children You’ve given us.
    We cry out for mercy for them, Father.
    Our hearts cry out for this mother’s heart that longs for her children.
    Travis’s and Heather’s faith and hope are in You, Lord.
    They know that You knew their children before the foundations of the earth
    and every detail of each one’s creation.
    Travis and Heather would never ask You for anything outside Your will.
    But, You told us to ask…so we ask…
    Bring them forth, Lord. Bring forth this generation that You’ve entrusted to
    Travis and Heather to raise up in Your Kingdom.
    Just as You were glorified in the bringing of Arle into their arms, may You
    be glorified in the life of each child that You send to them.

  20. 20

    Susan said,

    Hey Heather, I will definitely keep you and your family in our prayers. I know this is a huge decision in your life. Wow, it is exciting and scary all at the same time. I will pray for you right at this very moment.

  21. 21

    JoRie said,

    Heather: Javier & I lift you, Trav, & Arle up in prayer. I know how trying the entire process can be from the decision to do it, to the actual doing it! Just know that you have many people who love you & are lifting you up in prayer! Get down on your knees and ask God to hold your hand through the process…you have a cheerleader in me, that is for sure! May God Bless you & your family in his own ways & give you the strength, patience, & wisdom to do his will! xoxo

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